Tuesday, July 4, 2017


"Comparison is the thief of joy." 

I'm not sure who first said it but it rings true. If you truly want to steal your own happiness, compare yourself to others around you. You're sure to be successful at doing so.

It happens so naturally sometimes. It happens before we even realize it. One moment we're celebrating the success, beauty, or achievement of another person and in the next we find ourselves using them as a yardstick for our own lives. It's a sneaky habit, is it not? It creeps up on us before we know it and sabotages our ability to appreciate the good in our own lives.

The key issue with comparing ourselves to others is that we will never be satisfied. That craving to be more, accomplish more, look better... will be insatiable. There will always be someone new to compare ourselves to. A new yardstick, if you will. Imagine the amount of emotional and mental baggage that that creates for one person. You become unable to acknowledge and appreciate the beauty of your own life because you are enthralled with competing with the person next to you.

In order to overcome this issue, you must start from the inside out. It's not a new solution. I'm sure that you've heard it so many times that it's begun to sound cliché. But it couldn't be any more true. In order to truly reach the point in your life where you don't feel the need to compare yourself to others, you must become comfortable with who you are.

And that shit takes work.

It doesn't happen overnight. If you think it does, you may be developing false confidence (but that's a topic for another post). You have to understand and accept that you have flaws, much like everyone else does. A person who accepts their flaws but continues to be and love themselves unapologetically glows. Have you noticed? Those particular people always seem to have an alluring aura about them, something that you initially can't place your finger on but once you realize it later, you can't forget nor ignore it. I appreciate those people. I admire them. Because I am continuously striving to reach that place in my own life.

In an appearance-driven society where everyone is dependent on social currency for validation, I understand that it can be difficult to accept your flaws when every force is telling you to hate them. Don't take lightly the impact that social media can have on your psyche. Be aware of your mental and emotional responses. Acknowledge when something makes you feel a certain way and attempt to understand why. There is no shame in acknowledging your feelings, even if it's due to something trivial you spotted online. This is how you learn more about yourself and the world around you. Take a moment to reflect and you will appreciate it later in life.

We are all on a journey whether we realize it or not. Take time to learn more about yourself and love the person that you are becoming, regardless of what society tells you. Beauty is skin deep.