Wednesday, May 27, 2015

You Are Enough.♡

Earlier today, I was scrolling through my timeline on Twitter (because I have absolutely no life) and I noticed this tweet some girl tweeted. Of course I won't reveal her name but it said something along the lines of "I just wanna look like the girl on Tumblr."

No, but really.

Even if the girl had been joking, the statement still stands as an example of the social media-crazed society we live in today. Everyone says that they are "unique" or "different" or "an individual" but if you're steadily comparing yourself to someone else and idolizing them, just how unique are you?

Social media platforms such as Instagram, Pinterest, and Tumblr are more image driven than other sites so followings are based primarily on the visual. What people see and how pleasing it is to the eye is what draws their attention. And everyone loves attention. Maybe not on the same levels or in the same ways, but as human beings, we naturally crave some form of acceptance by our peers. So, in this context what do we do? Anything that will satisfy that urge and help shed a little spotlight on ourselves. 

This only becomes an issue when we begin to compare everything about ourselves to everything about another person. It's self-sabotaging and the most difficult part of it all is that we often do it without realizing it. 

All of those likes, favorites, and follows subconsciously create an ideal that we begin to strive towards. We want to emulate what we see online because naively we believe that it'll provide a sense of acceptance we're looking for. Sadly, the acceptance we truly need is within ourselves. 

Don't believe the hype. You're perfect just the way you are and anyone who tells you that you aren't isn't someone you should surround yourself with. It's not self acceptance in an egotistical or narcissistic way, but from a place of love. Love yourself genuinely and others will too. By trying to be someone else, you're doing the world a disservice because we're missing out on YOU!


Monday, May 25, 2015

Get IN Your Feelings.

As I was browsing Facebook today, I noticed an article entitled The Psychology of Sensitivity: 9 Signs You're Emotionally Intelligent.

I read it. And it was good.

To be "emotionally intelligent" is to be very aware of your own emotions as well as sensitive to those of others. It allows you to extend empathy to other people and put yourself in their shoes so that you can better navigate relationships. Personally, I believe this is one of those "soft skills" that no one truly teaches you in school or college. It comes naturally and more naturally for some than others.

Interested in knowing if you're emotionally intelligent? Check out these tips and evaluate yo' self...

  • You have a realistic sense of self confidence. 

In other words, you realize that you're just like everyone else. You know you have strengths and weaknesses, yet you're skilled in how to develop those areas.

  • You know how your feelings operate.

  • Nobody knows YOU better than YOU. You can feel a b*tch fit coming a mile away and you know exactly when to call it quits. Emotionally intelligent people have no problem sorting out the how's and why's of their own feelings.

    • You don't break under pressure. 
    When you're so aware of what excites you or makes you tick, it's much easier to be relaxed during times of distress. You can foresee what's coming and most importantly, you're in tune to prepare your reaction. Even if push comes to shove and you overreact, you're most likely to recover quickly.

    These are just 3 of the nine signs indicated in the Facebook article I read scanned. If you're really interested in checking out the rest, follow the link here:

    Comment your thoughts below! 

    Tuesday, May 5, 2015

    Making It Rain.

    So, this is me in a hat.
    For those who don't know, the Kentucky Derby is a yearly event that grants the city of Louisville permission to just do outlandish 'ish. That is, if you have the money to. 

    Even if I attempted to put it into words, I wouldn't do it any justice to describe the fashion that comes to Louisville. The hats are really gorgeous (and amazingly handmade) and the dresses are to die for. Seriously. It's less of a sporting event and more of a social event now. Everyone comes to drink bourbon, dress nice, and waste a TON of money. 

    I honestly did not realize how poor I was until I witnessed just how rich these people are. The money I work for in two weeks is just pocket change to them. They could feed me for three months just on the cash they carry on a daily. 

    The struggle is real.

    Being surrounded by so many wealthy people made me wonder what their secret was. What exactly were they doing in their 20s that I'm not doing now? Granted, many of them were probably born into wealth so there wasn't much work to be done. But, how did they maintain their finances? Honestly, I'm sure it's not all rocket science. You just budget. But, the key is creating a realistic budget. Not living outside of your means. Which, admittedly I do pretty often. Not on their level, but, you know. 

    I wanna make it rain too.