Friday, April 17, 2015

I'm a Loner, I'm a Loner, I'm a Loner.

It's been brought to my attention time and time again that I am a loner.

As if any loner needs to be reminded of that.

People around me always comment that I keep to myself or that I don't socialize enough--whatever is considered "enough" by social standards. But what they fail to realize is that it's not always necessarily a choice.

I am an introvert and I LOVE my introversion. It provides me with a sense of comfort in my own skin, being able to withdraw and open myself up to my own thoughts. I constantly crave insight and as one with an introverted personality, I always satisfy that desire. It's quite fulfilling. However, sometimes it can lead to a great deal of loneliness. So much time spent prodding the pits of my own mind leaves very little opportunities to interact and socialize with the outside world. I become secluded, isolated even. Not necessarily because I choose to be that way, but because due to my introverted personality, I haven't just yet learned how not to be. There are no classes (that I'm aware of) that educates one on how to be popular, how to attract people, or on how to avoid your own introverted tendencies. 

For this moment, I designate myself as a spokesperson for the introverted community by saying it's possible for us to get lonely too. Yes, most of the time we choose to be alone. Yes, most of the time we would much rather enjoy our own company than that of someone else. But, there comes moments when we crave social interaction--maybe just on a smaller scale. The average extrovert may view a Saturday night full of bar hopping and dancing as the ideal way to socialize. But for someone like myself, it may just involve the company of 1 or 2 people. It doesn't have to be in public (actually, preferably NOT in public) and it most certainly doesn't have to involve a set activity. Perhaps we can just talk. Exchange pleasantries. Share events of the day. And quite possibly delve into a very interesting, thought-provoking conversation about life and stuff. That's always cool. 

We introverts aren't hard to please. We don't need much. But what we do need, we need in our own way. 


  1. I can relate to this so much. I used to be much more introverted when I was younger, but the more comfortable I became in my own skin, the more introverted I became. Sometimes, I crave the company of another person, or maybe a couple of other people. But I would much rather engage in small, meaningful interactions than big crowds of people that aren't really connecting with each other.
    Hmmm... Thanx for writing this :)

  2. And thanks for reading! :) I am the very same way! Large crowds annoy me. Too many voices and I am the type to want to listen to each voice individually. Being introverted definitely has pros and cons.